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“Even the longest journey must begin where you stand” - Lao Tzu

Sometimes clients ask for self-help references to enrich their therapy. 

 

*What is appealing and helpful to one person may not be effective or applicable for another, so it may be useful to preview a book at the library before investing in it.

 

*Two generally useful adjunctive practices I strongly recommend are:

 

 1) Journal for about 10 minutes each day.

             *Write about your feelings, awarenesses, insights—be sure to spend some time each day focusing on the positives in your day and the things you feel grateful for. If it is helpful, briefly reflect on your difficulties as well.

             *It is most helpful to write about a few things you are grateful for or saw as successes and explore specifically what made them successes or positives for you.

 

 2) Develop a family tree or genogram (bring this to therapy)

             *Include every person in your own generation, your parents’ generation, your grandparents’ generation and your childrens’ generation.

             *You can also include other unrelated significant individuals, such as a best friend, mentor, even a pet

             *Next to each individual list as much detail as possible: significant physical illnesses, substance abuse, mental illness, cause of death, place of birth, occupation, names, occupations, dates of death/birth/marriage/ divorce/etc, specific strengths of the person.

             *Draw lines between individuals to chart significant relationships (abuse, estranged, especially close, etc).

To contact me:

Phone: 719-646-7854

Fax: 719-495-7965

Email: debye@asafespacetoheal.com

 

*You may find one of these general self-help books useful (pick what suits you best):

 -Change for the Better, Elizabeth Wilde McCormick

 -Reinventing Your Life: the Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior ...and Feel Great Again,   Jeffrey Young & Janet Klosko

  -You may also enjoy works by Irvin Yalom, Kirk Schneider, or Victor Frankl.

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 *I recommend this CD to begin to practice mindfulness skills: From Suffering to Freedom Through Acceptance, Marsha Linehan, PhD, available at www.behavioraltech.org 

 

Other great mindfulness CDs are available by Jon Kabat-Zinn, Thich Nhat Hanh, Shinzen Young, Daniel Siegel, Tara Brach, Pema Chodron

 

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*Many of my clients find Guided Imagery helpful….  I particularly enjoy those produced by Belleruth Naparstek, available at www.healthjourneys.com 

 

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For Depression: Focusing on Feeling Good, self-hypnosis CDs, Dr Michael Yapko

 

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For Anxiety:

  *Calm Down, self-hypnosis and education CDs, Dr Michael Yapko

   *Relieve Anxiety with Medical Hypnosis, CDs, Dr Steven Gurgevich

  *Don’t Panic and other books/resources by Reid Wilson

 

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For Couples:

 -Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage, Drs. John Gottman & Julie Schwartz Gottman.  (also available as a book on CD)

 - Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, Dr Sue Johnson (also available as a book on CD)

 -The Divorce Remedy, Michele Weiner-Davis (also her CD Keeping Love Alive)

 

 For Affairs: After the Affair and How Can I Forgive You? By Janis Abrams-Spring

 

Most resources are available through www.bigwords.com , Amazon.com, bn.com, etc.